The Curse of Helicopter Parents on Leadership

There is a new generation coming to the workforce (Those born between the ages of 1981 – 1998). Some call them Millennials, others call them GenNexters. Whatever you call us we are a new and distinctly different generation. Get ready because we are your next generation of leaders. One of the traits being stereotyped on us is that we are lacking the ability to connect the dots. When trying to achieve a simple task some of us need a little more guidance to complete the task. For some this is true. The root cause: over zealous parents, parents who do too much for their children. No doubt you only want the best for us, but you are over coddling us, negating our ability to connect the dots and to eventually become leaders. I recently heard an executive from a major U.S Insurance Company exclaim:

“The other day I told my daughter to take a bath so she went up stairs to take a bath. About ten minutes later I asked my husband if she had gotten in the bath, he said no she is just sitting in there. I asked my daughter why she did not get in the bath, she said to me ‘I got in the bath but you did not tell me to turn the water on.’ Baffled, I asked her to take a bath and turn the water on.”

While this story certainly seems a bit exaggerated, it makes a good point. Those parenting our generation have gotten so over involved in our lives that they hinder our ability to connect the dots necessary to complete the simplest tasks. This inability will have wide sweeping negative effects on our ability to be leaders. A critical attribute a leader must have is the ability to see what needs to be done and connect the dots necessary to get the task done. in other words to take the initiative.

Although it is critical that parents raise their children in such a way that they can develop the skills necessary to connect the dots, the responsibility does not rest on the parents. Those who have been cursed by a helicopter parent need to understand that they are ultimately responsible for their own life and if they aspire to be a leader they will need to learn how to overcome the curse.

See the next post for overcoming the curse.